I've been contemplating the idea of architecture. When you build a house, you use a blueprint, and that blueprint is everything. It guides the whole creation of the house.
Yet, once it is built, very few people even enquire about it. Why would you need the blueprint once the house has been built? Why would it matter? And who is actually even admiring the architecture of the house after they've lived in it for years? It's just a house, or perhaps it has become more than that; it has become a home. Then the preoccupation is with what type of home it is. Is it a happy, comfy home? Is it a sad and lonely home? If it is happy, what has made it so? If it is lonely, what has created that loneliness? And where is it located? Is it in a warm and stimulating neighbourhood surrounded by friendly, loving neighbours? Was it built away on a hill, far away from strangers? And what made us build it, in this location?
The subconscious is such an interesting place. I recently got certified in hypnosis, and it made me contemplate the Architect. We are generally only 5% conscious; the other 95% is sitting in the unconscious part of our mind.
We try to build our lives consciously. We make plans and take actions, thinking we are consciously running the show, when in reality, the subconscious is the Architect of the majority of what we are experiencing. It's the reason why one person can exercise one hour a day and be ready for the cover of Sports Illustrated, while another person can do all the same things and never lose a pound. Our subconscious is where we find our drivers in life. It is where we can examine why we create the patterns we create, the blockages we experience, and where we can get in touch with our true motivations. We can spend our lives saying that our weight gain has to do purely with diet and exercise. If that were true, people wouldn't be struggling with self-sabotage as they do.
For example, what if the real belief comes from something deeper? What if the weight is about protection? What if being a little overweight is tied to the idea that if I am overweight, I will be safe from men who would want to harm me? Maybe it is about hiding in plain sight in order to feel safer because the belief that being invisible is safe is silently lurking within our subconscious.
These are powerful beliefs, and they often aren't what we are conscious of in our daily lives. Yet, they are the blueprints that are building our physical realities.
A lot of people aren't too bothered with looking deeper to see what is underlying their patterns, their blockages and their motivations in life. I mean, why do it if everything is working out just perfectly for you? But, if that's not the case, if you aren't really manifesting what you truly want in life, perhaps it's worth pulling out that old blueprint to see what's been built and if this space is where you really want to live now.
Have you arrived at where you ultimately want to be? Or have you rationalized and told yourself a convenient story about how this was fate, what was meant to be, what is best for the greater good, or even what makes you a “good” person?
As we grow and evolve, it makes sense that our internal worlds change. Sometimes those changes also change our external worlds. Just because we built one house and lived in it for a long time doesn't mean we have to stay there forever. Life is about change, evolution, and learning new things.
The interesting thing about the mind is that it stores memories, but not without certain deletions, generalizations, or distortions based on what is sitting in the subconscious. We recount the things that happen to us from our very own subjective state of mind that has internalized the memory with all kinds of changes. It is a story that makes sense because we understand the world based on what is in the subconscious. It is a version of the truth – one version of the story. And if all it is is a story that we believe is true, why wouldn’t we want to make sure that this belief serves us?
I often ask my clients this question because I think it doesn’t occur to people that they have the choice to believe anything they want. Every single human being has a unique set of beliefs that are strongly in opposition to the beliefs of so many people around them. There is such a huge variety of beliefs, stories and versions of reality that we all live with on this very same planet.
So, here is my question:
In a world where you have the freedom to ultimately believe anything you want, why not choose to believe something that is in service to you, that honours you, and that actually helps you to achieve your dreams?
